‘Are you going to..’ just stop there if you are going to ask any question to a pregnant woman which is aimed at only making her uncomfortable. It is not your business to ask her what she is going to do and what she ought not to. She might be undergoing a lot of emotions already and your questions are going to hurt her instead of providing any solace! If you are going to ask any one of the below mentioned questions, just stop in your tracks!
- Are you going to breastfeed?
Why are you concerned about what is she going to do with her breasts, in the first place? It’s quite likely that she would have heard that breastfeeding is much better than formula milk, but there are going to be zillions of other considerations going on in her mind. You ought not to give an unsolicited advice unless asked and/or you are buying her formula cans or breast pumps.
- How much weight you have gained?
Or ‘how big you are’ / ‘are you having twins’, the question can have many shapes, depending on the person. While you may find that question funny, witty or original, mind you, it is none of them. It is highly impolite to ask this question to someone who is not pregnant, and is never going to be fine to ask this to someone who is!
- Hospitals are damn full of germs, you know that?
Thank you for making her incredibly miserable given that she is having a host of other problems as well! You diverted her to the thought that people get sick at the hospitals. Did freaking her out serve any purpose for you? Most likely it didn’t but you gave her an additional point to worry about. Congratulations!